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Match-maker God!Marriage arranged by GodLet me just start by saying that Marriage is a divine idea and design that was put in motion by God Himself. (Read Genesis 2-3) God the creator is a relational God. Marriage is top priority to God. As a matter of fact, the Bible starts with a Marriage; that of Adam and Eve (not Adam and Steve-please!!!!) and it ends up with a Marriage; The marriage of The Bride (the Church) with Her Bride Groom, Jesus Christ! (Revelations 19) Infact Jesus deems marriage so important that
He even did His first public miracle during a marriage-the marriage at Cana (John 2)!
A marriage that God joins is
ALWAYS made up of a man and a woman (never a man with a man or woman with a woman) and not only that, but they are also followers of Christ Jesus (Christians)!
Other marriages can be joined, but I would not dare take the responsibility and freely say that God joined them! Humans can join others but God would not take claim or responsability over them.
If a Christian is a child of God in Christ as the Bible says in many places (John 1:12, Roman 8:14-16 ...) than the non Christian is not legally a child of God or within the covenant of God and is therefore considered an outsider to the Covenant and that makes him or her an alien and foreigner (Ephesians 2:11-12).
Until one is genuinely Born-Again by having consciously surrendered his or her life to Christ, he or she is still under the curse of the original sin and his/her father is the devil (John 8:44,Romans 5:12-17, 1 John 5; 19 etc…)
Legally and spiritually speaking God, YaHWeH,
ONLY blesses those who are joined under His Lordship and of the same faith in Christ.
This can be clearly seen in the Bible. God always commanded…not suggested…His people to always choose a partner from amongst their same faith. (Genesis 24:36-40, Genesis 28:1-2, etc…) However this command was broken and ignored too many times to even mention in the Bible and in these days that we live in!
What God joins!2 Corinthians 6:14-16:
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Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers [do not make mismated alliances with them or come under a different yoke with them, inconsistent with your faith]. For what partnership have right living and right standing with God with iniquity and lawlessness? Or how can light have fellowship with darkness? 15.
What harmony can there be between Christ and Belial [the devil]? Or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever? 16.
What agreement [can there be between] a temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God; even as God said, I will dwell in and with and among them and will walk in and with and among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be My people. It is for this reason that Jesus, quoting out of The Word of God in Genesis 2, that He said that,
“What God has joined…let no man separate”. That obviously means that not every one who gets married is joined by God. He did not say, “Every one that gets married is joined by God!” God only gets involved when we involve Him and many people nowadays get married and never involve God in their decisions in the choosing of their life time partner!
Matthew 19: 4-6:
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He replied, Have you never read that He Who made them from the beginning made them male and female,5.
And said, for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be united firmly (joined inseparably) to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? 6.
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let not man put asunder (separate).Oh, yes many do involve God in their marriage, especially after they have been married to the devil's relative!!! At that time it is a bit too late because now you are married but if people in this situation really seek The Lord in prayer and in Truth, God will have mercy and help them!
I have met many people that had a disasterous marriage and without God in their life, and after much sacrifice (not to mention, unneccessary hurt and grief) and prayer they both turned their life to The Lord and their marriage also was 'Born Again' from the ashes!(1 Corinthains7)
How do you know which one is the right mate for you?So if you are a Christian seeking a partner, make sure you are searching in the right place.
Start by praying! Pray that the Lord will help you and protect you in the choosing and being chosen. Pray also for your future mate, even before you meet him/her. God is your loving Father and He wants you to be happy, not miserable for the rest of your life! Just like God was involved in choosing the bride for Isaac (Genesis 24), He wants to be involved in bringing your mate to you!
Don’t look for a wife or husband because you feel empty and you need some one to fill that void. That is selfish! You enter marriage to give not to get! You don’t enter 50% whole, you enter completely whole. If both of you enter half whole than you will be two halves and you will irritate each other and you will never really be able to be satisfied completely by another ‘needy’ person!
Each person must first enter marriage, being fully satisfied and feeling complete in The Lord! (Colossian 2:9)
Marriage is not finding the right person; marriage is being the right person!Marriage is not finding the perfect mate, but The Right one cause after all no body is perfect!Marriage is where the wills of two different people die and ONE Will is born with a desire to serve and glorify God in and through your marriage!One of the utmost important ingredients is that both you and your mate must for ever remain humble and open for instruction and correction from The Lord. Be open to receive from those that The Lord has put you under their care.
You must realize that you don’t enter marriage to have some one meet your needs but more so that you meet some one else’s needs.
Maintain always a teachable heart. Never come to the place where you don’t need any one to give you instruction. Allow people who love you, speak into your life! (Proverbs 11:14, Proverbs 24:6) The person who is not open for instruction and correction is called stupid or a fool in many places in the Bible (Proverbs 12:1)
Make sure that the partner you date or court is not just a ‘nominal Christian’. This means that this person just simply has the title of a Christian (He/she is more religious than a true Christian). God wants some one who has a vibrant living, on going relations ship with The Lord.
Avoid choosing a mate that is out of fellowship with other believers, who is not planted some where in a church, community or fellowship. This is a ‘red’ light that that person may be in rebellion and does not receive (Biblical) instruction very well (1 John 1:5-7).
Don't marry some one you can live with:Marry the one you cannot live without!If the person you are dating has no problem sinning, because he or she uses the excuse that, “oh after all we love each other no?!!” This person does not know love, because love does not seek its own! Run away as quickly a possible. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
The person that God gives you, though he or she may not be perfect, he/she will avoid sinning sexually out side marriage and has a healthy fear of God! If you do not embarrass sin, sin will embarrass you!
The person that God gives you loves God. He or she will love what God loves and hates what God hates and most definitely He hates sin! (Proverbs 8:13)
The person that God sends you will draw you closer to God and will enchance your life spiritually. He is blessing not a burden!Avoid a common pitfall: I meet many well meaning Christians who have come to settle in their life for some one who is not neccessarily a Christian but as they put it, "Oh but he is a really good person". Well my simple, straight to the point advice for you is this, "This teddy bear that you are now so fond of will one day turn into a 'grissly bear' and will devour you". If he or she does not fear God, what makes you think that he/she is going to fear you?! Don't be fooled! Don't let a kiss fool you, and don't let a fool kiss you!
Even Jesus when some one told Him that He was good, He said, that only God is good! (This does not mean that Jesus was not good-but He wanted to show that what many people call good and what God consideres good are totally two different things) That means that what we esteem as good and what God call GOOD are drastically two different standards! (Isaiah 64:6)And,...if you are expecting God to join two people they can only be joined by His standards of 'good' not what you think is good!(Mark 10:17)
Finally keep in mind that marriage is an awesome thing! It is God’s idea before ‘Sin’ entered the world. Therefore marriage is something that is ‘Heavenly’ and if you diligently seek and obey the Lord in this you will experience “Heaven on Earth”. The sad thing is that the opposite is also true, it can be “Hell on earth”.
“Marriage is the perpetual test of your character”…so choose wisely and diligently! It is a one way trip!
